I want to share with you today 10 secret ways to make your partner worship you that work like magic and get you surprised. These tips aren’t magical but because most of us do not really think they could be that powerful and helpful in our relationships, so we do not take them into consideration.
Relationship, especially marriage isn’t just a contract entered into by two lovers but it’s a union that binds two souls and make them act like one and with one mindset. It is for the matured minds and those who know what they are entering. Its not supposed to be a trial and error thing.
I remember one time when a colleague and a friend of mine complained about her husband losing interest in her and in things they normally would do together as couple in the past. It wasn’t like he was cheating with some hot girl somewhere but his sudden quietness towards her became a thing to ponder on.
Yeah, it wasn’t good for their then 3 years of marriage. Everyone who values their marriage would get concerned when changes are noticed.
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Anyway, while showing concern for the issue and discussing at length with her on what to do, I told her three ways to focus on to see if the issue was coming from her or he was just being ‘’silly’’ playing with his young marriage.
While I intended to write on those three ways we discussed to make your man fall back in love with you, I will add seven extra secrets to a successful relationship and marriage.
As we may know, where there is a happy marriage, there was a successful relationship that grew overtime between partners.
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SECRET INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP
1- No relationship or marriage can succeed without Trust and Good Communication
This is the basic or foundation to any marriage or relationship. No union can survive without them because it is the bedrock upon which other ingredients or characteristics of a good union stand on. Some couples and partners still live as strangers in their home and only talk to each other when it is very necessary to do so.
Why stay in such a union where communication is absent and lacking? Any relationship or marriage that lacks constant communication will automatically lack trust. Communication and trust go hand in hand and you can’t separate them.
One should be able to discuss anything and everything with your partner. Happy and adventurous couple who are in constant communication can sometimes even prophesy what the next partner would do in the next minute.
Good and regular communication actually binds people psychologically, emotionally and otherwise.
Sometimes love isn’t just enough, it must be mixed with trust and it remains the basic foundation for any relationship and marriage.
Concealing your thoughts from your significant other may actually make him or her feel shut out totally because your partner would see you as being secretive.
2- Compliment and Appreciate Your Partner Always
Telling your partner how good, gorgeous or sexy they look goes a long way in strengthening your relationship. When you pass to them some compliments, it just doesn’t only boost their confidence but it makes them feel good about themselves and return this goodness to you in return.
I used to have this friend as a young kid, each time her father got back from work, the mother (wife) would always say some sweet words to him that always got him smiling and every time the wife says any sweet words to him, anyone around could see and feel the happiness in him and he would say ‘’you sure know how to get my head swell like a bomb, don’t you?’’, and the both of them would laugh and kiss.
Tell your partner specific things you love about them and how they make you feel good. Appreciate what you have and realize that marriages at times can be fragile and need to be taken care of.
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For the women, also, learn to always appreciate your man and thank him for any little thing nice thing he does. Praise him for handling an argument with your children. Commend him for working hard around the house.
Show him admiration when he goes the extra mile at work or for a neighbor. Compliment his new shirt, haircut or shoes. When you show them all these compliments, there is this feeling of satisfaction that would want your partner to do more for you and the kids.
For the men, take notice of when she does a new hair style, wear a new dress or shoes. Let her know how beautiful and sexy she looks in them.
3- Always Pay Extra Attention to your partner
When they return from work and want to tell you about their day and how it went, pay attention to the story. Take notice and get engaged with their encounters, frustration and what bothers them. Just listen.
Paying attention isn’t all there is to it, but paying attention can help one avoid numerous arguments and a lot of unpleasantness. Paying attention to your partner also means that you take into notice or consideration the little things that matter most to your partner or what they like.
In this regard, your focus and thoughts are present when they are. Reach more for your spouse than your mobile phone, never you forget your spouse’s birthday, or anniversary. Also, when they fall sick, they need your attention most etc. These are just some simple ways to pay that attention to your spouse.
4- Lock your eyes into theirs especially during any form of discussion.
Another successful relationship secret is to always have your gaze fix at your partner during any form of discussion.
Aside sending the message that you are all ears to the discussion of the moment, the act of staring, admiring and locking of eyes with your partner is itself very romantic and bonding.
5- Don’t be afraid to argue with your partner– it’s perfectly normal
Not all arguments and disagreements in a relationship or marriage is unhealthy. Some Disagreements with your partner could actually lead to a better understanding and can also put the other person into consideration before an action is taken by one partner.
They can bring couples closer together. An occasional squabble doesn’t mean your marriage is doomed. It’s healthy and important for a strong marriage but you must learn how to fight fairly.
Keep things civil and keep your voices down. Never let your arguments last long or become too intense. Don’t forget, the most important part of ‘’fighting’’ is to disagree to agree.
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6- Confide in your partner and not in a third party.
One thing I keep reading that have brought cracks and sometimes led to the dissolution of some marriages here in Nigeria is when a third party tells the wife what her husband intends to do.
When you do not involve your partner on any plan or project you intend achieving, then you are sending a message of how unimportant their inputs are or that of lack of trust. This has been accounted for as one of the many long term relationship problems.
Your spouse at all times must be your confidant and first person to call or reach out to before a major decision is taken. Involving your spouse and listening to their opinion shows how you respect, cherish and how important they are to you.
Your pains, frustrations, fear or whatever bothers you should be confessed first to your partner and not a third party. This is one very crucial ingredient in any relationship or marriage.
Opening up to your spouse is crucial for happiness in marriage. Never be afraid to unload your innermost feelings to them.
7- Focus on their positive sides and not what they do wrong
When you criticize your partner often, it sends a negative vibe to them which they don’t feel good about. No one is perfect, we are all working towards perfection, therefore it is normal mistakes would be made on such journey.
However, focusing on such mistakes committed by your significant other will get things worse because sometimes they may think you don’t see any good in them.
Try not to look for things they do wrongly. Happy couples accentuate the positive.
8- Surprise each other like you used to do while dating
Taking time for yourselves out and going on dates even when married can put so much glamour and sparks in your marriage. Doing all those things you used to do while dating before you tied the knot is just awesome and healthy for your marriage.
Have some time like going for a trip together, surprise them with gifts, lodging in a hotel where the both of you could have time for yourselves, wear those sexy clothes in anticipation for a new catch who wants to have dinner with you etc.
9- Learn to say sorry when you are wrong
Saying ‘’I am sorry’’ saves you from further fights and arguments. Also, when you want to apologise, do not apologize grudgingly, do it with a gesture of affection.
Apologizing when you are wrong doesn’t make you less, rather it shows your high level of maturity. It also allows both parties to come together and move on.
As simple as it is, accepting or taking responsibilities for some actions which didn’t go well with your partner is one of the many successful relationship tips that strengthens any healthy relationship. I have heard and read about some couples who complain of their partners not accepting their faults.
A sincere apology allows you to let people know you’re not proud of what you did, and won’t be repeating the behavior. That lets people know you’re the kind of person who is generally careful not to hurt others intentionally, and puts the focus on your better virtues, rather than on your worst mistakes.
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10- Be your Partner’s biggest supporter anywhere
Even when your partner is wrong with some actions in the public or with anyone else over an issue, you just have to stand and support him/her first no matter what.
Yes, you have to support him/her in the open and get home to criticize them for their actions.
After all, you’re supposed to be each other’s biggest supporters.
Any experience or addition? Kindly air your thoughts in the comment section.