Most of us have heard some sayings about relationships like how money can’t buy love, be prepared for heartbreaks or how you can’t be perfect for everyone etc. These are facts! While you may be thinking of entering one with someone you feel good with, there are some really bitter truth about relationships I think you should know.
Relationship do not come so easy. No, it’s doesn’t. There are painful prices and sacrifices to be made by two people involved.
I have been in relationships and I have found out that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person, after all, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner.
In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with any other person.
Some people have been in a relationship, loved the guy so much but still fell in love with another guy.
So what went wrong there?
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart, its works out because of emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self-discipline.
You see, times will come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, intelligent, sexy, curvy and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with. In those times, Love will not help you, Self-control will help you, Emotional intelligence will help you, and commitment will help you.
No matter how you feel for someone, the person you’re committed to ranks first in your life.
You think married people don’t see better people than the ones they married?
You think they don’t feel funny sometimes?
You think they don’t catch feelings?
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is a great arsenal to destroy that impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them. It takes more than Love.
We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient, when it’s sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.
After then, you’ll realize that the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.
Building a relationship is hard work, it’s like building a career, and it’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough, it will sometimes be so bitter but you can make it work.
Everyone falls in love, it takes no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only few do that. That’s why we must find one person and commit to that one, Discipline yourself, bridle your emotions.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You must build it and it’s never always about love.
On the long run in marriages, it’s not love that keeps them together again.
In conclusion: The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together.
Be emotionally strong! Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that and stay Strong and Discipline Yourself.
FEW THOUGHS TO HOLD DEAR ABOUT RELATIONSHIP
1- Have it at the back of your mind that NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP WOULD LEAD TO MARRIAGE
2– Difficult times will make you know who actually loves you
3– Never imagine that all good relationships lead to happy ending.
4– Not everyone who says I love you means it.
5– Sudden wealth changes people overnight. Struggling guys are mostly always loyal
6– No relationship is ever perfect. There is no perfect man or woman anywhere in the world
7– Sometimes love is not enough.
8– $.ex doesn’t keep a man, it can only give him pleasure.
9– Love is never a deal people enter into
Written by Omar Kohonaho with contribution from Brenda.
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